**** On Resolutions & Goals ******

Dear All

Writing this exactly after 1 week of another Grand New year - not because I forgot / missed it out.

On the contrary it is quite a meager time that I took to ponder over / pool all my thoughts in this post. Just to voice out on my credentials about this topic, I was - quite sincerely - ruminating about writing a book (rather "booklet") on goal setting process & self help tools until two years back.

(Then what happened ? Just that I realized that a book is not really warranted for those deserving it)

In the context of a New Year Resolutions, i should sheepishly admit that I have hands on experiences on Birth Day resolutions and New Moon Day goals too - not just taking, but seeing thru' them, floundering at various stages and tasted an array of emotions in these games.

Now, this process of taking help of such tools -  goals, affirmations and resolutions definitely help one who is all earnest about it - I have no second thoughts about it. 

But then, since Darwin is omnipresent and ever-living, one reaches an impasse rather a stagnation after a while. 

This "inert" stage eventually pushes us towards the ability of "internalizing" and living what we want to be with a "shortest possible lead time" if not immediately. (considering destiny factor - to elobrate - "desa kaala parichinnangaL"). 

But then let me confess that I did not get into this next stage of evolution quite naturally. There was period of close to a year where I felt stagnated, suffocated and confused after I painfully realized that I got immune to goals.

Since I sincerely believe I am yet to get enlightened even now, I am convinced that I can't be a loner..and hence this post.
Any one who is earnest is pursuing  - any thing for that matter whatsoever - manages to find a way to transcend his way !

The beauty is that this transcendence works out more as an art and not rigid like a rocket science (er.... er.... Rocket experts may want to object to this statement but then, lets not digress from the topic)

When I read a nice article in last week's SPEAKING TREE news paper with an interesting title "Instead of New Year Resoultions", I keenly read thru the 12 points listed out and smiled within myself. My Favourite Writer of current times - Jayamohan had written a wonderful article in his blog about this transformation that he had underwent - http://www.jeyamohan.in/94112#.WHHM0noi7rQ

Just pasting the post script that he had written after his quite a long (usual size for him) essay to know what he means & I mean....

எழுதி முடித்ததும் எனக்கே சந்தோஷமாக ஆகி  என்னை நானே பாராட்டிக்கொள்ளும்பொருட்டு கீழே போய்  பாசிப்பருப்புப் பாயசம் செய்து மொத்தத்தையும் நானே குடித்துமுடித்தேன். வீட்டில் யாருமில்லை

Yes.... When we reach a point the gap -  between what we aspire & we are - starts diminishing, When we stop doing things that we suffocate about and When we find no time for taking newer goals, that is exactly the stage what I mean by "transcending" goals.

Connecting now to the first line of this musings...and on why I needed 1 full week to write this post is simply because of two equally important reasons -
(1) I have too much to think about the wondeful year that went by and the exciting things that happened, is happening and few ripples of thoughts on future too.....;
(2) I just had no time until today

If some one is wondering how the composite sentence in the (1) above can be equal or equivalent to (2) - YES, my friends, that's how it is.... that's all it takes..... that's how it feels ("பாயசம்") when the goal settling process internalizes with one's self.
Its actually a simple aspect but definitely not an easy one - at least in my case.

With Love // Suren