Some how we (me and Anoo) always had been considered as a juicy victim by Amway Corps and its "positive (business?) minded" {you can actually swap the adjectives - still it will mean almost the same thing} flag bearers.
It was the third such direct trial yesterday which in a way re affirmed to myself that I can never be the AM way !!
Knowing fully well the consequences, I welcomed a friend of mine to home which I had consciously postponed at least couple of times earlier in the past three months just because.....I liked him and his personality. He in fact is quite different from the earlier two couples who tried to woo us before this episode AND I wanted to be open enough to at least allow him to my home without telling a big NO NO !! He did not disappoint me at all as he talked less business and more wisdom; less frantic and more relaxed...and created lesser repulsion and more of warmth.
Lemme put my thoughts on the subject as it comes....and I am quite eager if I feel the same thing after a decade or so.....!!
(1) As a matter of unwritten agreement, me and Anoo DO NOT visit any body's home for socializing - particularly in friend's circle. Its not that we are averse of people but we are not so fond of any body that need to pamper the relationship by a joint visit once a while.
To even entertain a ripple of thought - about visiting some one's home with a "hidden" (or is it too "open" ?) agenda gives me shudders.
(2) Without any body forcing me for anything, I do not understand why I advocate for INDEPENDENCE so much for me ? Its even in the most simple things I want to be myself though it disappoints Anoo so much. In the same manner, the amount of importance that she gives for house keeping and being nice to people around - makes me philosophical !!
Living in absolutely two different worlds, it is quite a miracle to create a home that has least quarrels and hatred - at least in comparison to many other homes that we are familiar with. Its quite a double miracle to enjoy the wonders of an extra ordinary child that we are blessed with. - without any "positivity" that we have to acquire thru' the network business and the way it reportedly shapes our personality !!
Perhaps its just due to the fact that we clearly realized that we travel in different roads altogether !! And here is a business proposal that could in a way subtly force us to walk together, wearing an artificial smile in our faces to prove some thing to the "prospects" !!
(3) As I mentioned earlier, this gentle man spoke less of business. But still he had to touch upon leaving a legacy for madhoo which could allow her to do what ever she wants to do...!! What a powerful bait for a middle class man - this ought to be ?
Well, I personally believe that my little girl will definitely do what ever she wants to do - and she is supposed to be so - not because of the financial freedom but out of her mental freedom. Some how I do not carry a need (or psychological fear ?)to ensure (or insure myself ?) that she never should complain about the way I brought her up. In fact, except barging into the decision of Anoo and putting her in Tamil as second language - I am not able to recall any other way I had tried influenced upon her ....!!
(4) Anoo was quite restless at the end of the talk though she was quite delighted in the beginning when the visitors were awe struck with the beauty of our home !!
There were showers of praises on her "house keeping" abilities which is always a genuine feedback for our home and the care she takes for orderliness. After hearing them for close to half hour, there came a direct question to us if we are interested in business proposal. This girl is so courteous with new acquaintances that she could not tell a clear NO even when she is repulsive about an idea. Imagine her to lead a life style that leaves her no time to clean up the home AND running to catch up the schedule of meeting up the "prospects".....
I think I should not do this injustice to her !!
By getting into the network marketing business, we might end up vaporizing the positives that has been developed between us with our non interference policy. This could be the most suffocating means of converging the space of two individuals particularly when there is no strong urge or need to walk a new path.
(5) Well, if you are smiling - why at all should I invite him home with so much repulsion at heart for this business - beg your pardon, I still am receptive enough to listen to a lecture that I knew it too well. In fact I should feel grateful to Almighty that - within myself- I was much more receptive to this couple lot more than the earlier occasion - which definitely means that I have evolved lot more with age.
I repeat what I had written already - I like this gentleman so much for his warmth and cool head and really wanted him to visit our home if he wants to...!! He had the maturity to propose this visit only after four months of our introduction to each other....after careful series of steps that is typically taken by such people. He did not disappoint me at all....and gave a perspective to the business which was much more evolved and matured than many others who become so calculative and restless in pursuit of the business.
I still feel that I might really support Anoo if she wants to take a plunge into this business - which she will never do without me pushing her - which is some thing I don't dare to do ... not to her but even to myself...!!
Krishnaarpanam....as always....
Suren
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