Hi
Quite delighted to share the fact that I cleared the driving test today morning (or yesterday morning) after learning car driving for the past 1 month or so.
Got a wonderful teacher at the Driving school whose name by coincidence was "Dhakshinaamoorthy" reminding me the "Aadhi Guru" as Lord Shiva is called....Very nice person who was very passionate about teaching. At times he was bit too sharp in giving feedbacks and responding curt to unnecessary questions / doubts. A man who resembled my personality in many ways and naturally I liked him and began to be very conscious (and cautious) when I interacted with him (This is of course after taking couple of nose cuts).
The owner of the driving school, Mr.Swaminathan is a very interesting personality (again....!! Did you observe this...every one is quite inspiring for me !!) with limited words in contrast to his paid assistant (I mean the former). After taking the first theory class at his office making me sit in a prototype of car front body (??) he joined me back only on my last 3 - 4 classes. I still remember vividly the manner he imparted me the fundamentals of driving (ABC....Accelerator, Break and Clutch) and the way the repeated every statement with his eyes closed.....as if he was initiating me into some type of spiritual practise.
During the last three classes, he was too different in giving the instructions from Mr.Dhakshinaa as he was gently telling the instructions when we err on some thing - with a very feeble voice - just adequate to be heard - never getting tensed about my mistakes. The candid feedback came to me yesterday after my last class was over....that there is a possibility I will be having a RE-test as I still have problems in handling the gear and clutch.....!! (I nodded very humbly at his assessment).
But he was the one who reached me to give a hand shake today after my test with just one word after calling me as "suren sir"......which was like honey in my ears.."done"....!! Well, that was a great relief for me as I really doubt if I can sincerely practise for 2 more weeks in this hot sun and my wierd office timings....!! Krishnaarpanam.
Well, before closing the musings, let me also put on record the nice lecture given by the Transport official (he made our group of around 50 standing for more than a hour for this lecture...thats a painful fact !!) on road safety and on avoiding accidents in life. Many moments, I got reminded of my Isha classes as essentially its all the same crux...where ever we go......!!
To be more aware, to take charge of oneself....and essentially self improvement. I liked this government servant who asked us questions on road signals (I answered few of them correctly...and he acknowledged it in front of the group....I was beaming !!!!).
Well, Thought I will pen down my joy on becoming an official driver...or a sarathy....!! May the 5 horses (my senses) be in my full control as I handle the steering of life from now on.....!!
Krishnaarpanam once again....
Suren
Thursday, April 22, 2010
Friday, April 16, 2010
Musings on Transaction Analysis
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From: Surendran, Suren (V.)
Sent: Tuesday, April 13, 2010 5:59 PM
To:
Subject: RE: Trail Play Session
Dear Team
"Life is Relationship" proclaimed world renowned philosopher Jiddu Krishnamoorthy.
If our lives can be fragmented into minutes in physical sense, in the subtler plane - its all about how we relate ourselves to the world around us.
The quality of our relationship with external world definitely hinges largely about how we handle the people around us more than how we handle other phyiscal realities. In fact the big difference between human aspect viz a viz other aspects is that we need to be always in the "present moment" when we deal with people !!
While we should never forget the advantage of our memories about a person and should also be hooked on the future relationship with him / her, still, its important that we handle him in the present moment…..!!
That’s the significance - I clearly perceive - from the concept of Transaction Analysis.
Its too big a reality….that cannot be appreciated by every one within an half hour session (given by me earlier) or a 15 minutes skit (that you are planning)….!! Its about the constant process of learning and unlearning from day to day life. So much to learn even on a so called mundane day….Believe me !!
To be continued……..
Regards // Suren
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From: Surendran, Suren (V.)
Sent: Thursday, April 15, 2010 5:13 PM
To:
Subject: RE: Trail Play Session
If we think deeply with some sense, analysing human beings - labelling people around as "good" or "bad" is a stupid thing to do…. The truth remains that all of us are GREY. Perhaps some of us are lighter shade, few of us are darker shade - its never possible to exactly quantify the grey-ness !!
If you extend the same line of thought further, we tend to label some one as "good" only based on a transaction (or few transactions). Even the best friend of our life does some stupid things in few transactions - we learn to ignore those mistakes because he is close to us. Vice versa happens to our enemies / adversaries too….!! Getting stuck up with an image about a person is not a sign of maturity.
Like in the game of cricket where a batsman is supposed to play each and every ball based on the merit, we need to approach human beings around us. The pitch conditions, Strength and Weaknesses of the opposition team with whom we are playing, our own strengths and weaknesses, the new-ness of the ball…….all these are important inputs for us to choose the stroke - but still….it matters lot more to observe the current ball that is furiously reaching us to be handled…...Isn't it ??
Transaction Analysis helps us get hooked to the current transaction and play it well.
{I always have scant regard for "success" in life……would prefer to have a label of EFFECTIVE person attached against me. Success to a great extend depends on luck factor and many times success can be accidental too….!!}
#After all, an effective person is some one who handles most of the transactions in his life in an effective manner. To consciously handle a transaction and be successful in it is sufficient experience by itself a hall mark of greatness - precisely that’s what you guys have been doing in the skit practises……!!
To be continued……(for just one more day !!)
Suren
Ps:- Am I too boring ?….Just that I am having a "break" in my typical style….Cheers….
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Dear All
Did you read the last line of my yesterday's note carefully ?? Read it once again if you did not catch my point.....for I am just going to expand that line in today's final musings on this subject.....
Well, When we take up a goal, work towards it with feverish excitement, visualize it thread bare AND think of all failure modes AND arresting ALL of them, apply ourselves to our optimum on the day when it matters - AND when it clicks, a strange sense of fulfilment fills our hearts..... For that matter, it does not matter to us much even if we encounter a fresh bottleneck that we never anticipated AND goof up a little bit !! We will be easily able to take it in stride AND appreciate that its just ONE transaction in which we failed....(Once Boris Becker told the press reporters after losing in a prestigious grand slam tournament - "it was not a war....No body died !!")
If a tiger tastes blood, then it is never the same again - perhaps people start calling it "blood hound" !! Similarly, when we taste success in one particular transaction giving ourselves whole heartedly, then we acquire an ability to handle any given situation to our best.....and move on with life without bruding about our past transactions. To me, this is the best way to live....and I mean what I say....and ......I live what I mean....!!
There is a stupid proverb in English "First Impression is the best impression"......!! For one who is moored into transaction analysis, this does not make any sense as he does not keep carrying his first impression for ever
Thanks to all of you. My heartfull of Thanks to each of you - To me it was an unforgettable episode in my chennai stint....!! How about YOU ???
Suren
ps:- guys please respond to this note AFTER 10 PM tonight in the manner of your "experience sharing" about this skit for the past 1 month or so. Let me treasure your experience in my personal archives and.....as a sweet successful transaction in my memory......
From: Surendran, Suren (V.)
Sent: Tuesday, April 13, 2010 5:59 PM
To:
Subject: RE: Trail Play Session
Dear Team
"Life is Relationship" proclaimed world renowned philosopher Jiddu Krishnamoorthy.
If our lives can be fragmented into minutes in physical sense, in the subtler plane - its all about how we relate ourselves to the world around us.
The quality of our relationship with external world definitely hinges largely about how we handle the people around us more than how we handle other phyiscal realities. In fact the big difference between human aspect viz a viz other aspects is that we need to be always in the "present moment" when we deal with people !!
While we should never forget the advantage of our memories about a person and should also be hooked on the future relationship with him / her, still, its important that we handle him in the present moment…..!!
That’s the significance - I clearly perceive - from the concept of Transaction Analysis.
Its too big a reality….that cannot be appreciated by every one within an half hour session (given by me earlier) or a 15 minutes skit (that you are planning)….!! Its about the constant process of learning and unlearning from day to day life. So much to learn even on a so called mundane day….Believe me !!
To be continued……..
Regards // Suren
_____________________________________________
From: Surendran, Suren (V.)
Sent: Thursday, April 15, 2010 5:13 PM
To:
Subject: RE: Trail Play Session
If we think deeply with some sense, analysing human beings - labelling people around as "good" or "bad" is a stupid thing to do…. The truth remains that all of us are GREY. Perhaps some of us are lighter shade, few of us are darker shade - its never possible to exactly quantify the grey-ness !!
If you extend the same line of thought further, we tend to label some one as "good" only based on a transaction (or few transactions). Even the best friend of our life does some stupid things in few transactions - we learn to ignore those mistakes because he is close to us. Vice versa happens to our enemies / adversaries too….!! Getting stuck up with an image about a person is not a sign of maturity.
Like in the game of cricket where a batsman is supposed to play each and every ball based on the merit, we need to approach human beings around us. The pitch conditions, Strength and Weaknesses of the opposition team with whom we are playing, our own strengths and weaknesses, the new-ness of the ball…….all these are important inputs for us to choose the stroke - but still….it matters lot more to observe the current ball that is furiously reaching us to be handled…...Isn't it ??
Transaction Analysis helps us get hooked to the current transaction and play it well.
{I always have scant regard for "success" in life……would prefer to have a label of EFFECTIVE person attached against me. Success to a great extend depends on luck factor and many times success can be accidental too….!!}
#After all, an effective person is some one who handles most of the transactions in his life in an effective manner. To consciously handle a transaction and be successful in it is sufficient experience by itself a hall mark of greatness - precisely that’s what you guys have been doing in the skit practises……!!
To be continued……(for just one more day !!)
Suren
Ps:- Am I too boring ?….Just that I am having a "break" in my typical style….Cheers….
___________________________________________________________________________________
Dear All
Did you read the last line of my yesterday's note carefully ?? Read it once again if you did not catch my point.....for I am just going to expand that line in today's final musings on this subject.....
Well, When we take up a goal, work towards it with feverish excitement, visualize it thread bare AND think of all failure modes AND arresting ALL of them, apply ourselves to our optimum on the day when it matters - AND when it clicks, a strange sense of fulfilment fills our hearts..... For that matter, it does not matter to us much even if we encounter a fresh bottleneck that we never anticipated AND goof up a little bit !! We will be easily able to take it in stride AND appreciate that its just ONE transaction in which we failed....(Once Boris Becker told the press reporters after losing in a prestigious grand slam tournament - "it was not a war....No body died !!")
If a tiger tastes blood, then it is never the same again - perhaps people start calling it "blood hound" !! Similarly, when we taste success in one particular transaction giving ourselves whole heartedly, then we acquire an ability to handle any given situation to our best.....and move on with life without bruding about our past transactions. To me, this is the best way to live....and I mean what I say....and ......I live what I mean....!!
There is a stupid proverb in English "First Impression is the best impression"......!! For one who is moored into transaction analysis, this does not make any sense as he does not keep carrying his first impression for ever
Thanks to all of you. My heartfull of Thanks to each of you - To me it was an unforgettable episode in my chennai stint....!! How about YOU ???
Suren
ps:- guys please respond to this note AFTER 10 PM tonight in the manner of your "experience sharing" about this skit for the past 1 month or so. Let me treasure your experience in my personal archives and.....as a sweet successful transaction in my memory......
Thursday, April 15, 2010
Power of HOW
Hi All
Some time back I had posted my thoughts in my earlier blog about the power of "why" (reproduced below for a quick reading now).
When I wrote it I was so clear about what ever I was writing and when I read it after close to 1 1/2 years, it is still appealing though .... though these days I am more oriented towards the power of HOW !!. It seems to me that HOW is rather a more powerful interrogative tool which scores over WHY....If done religiously, it can totally annihilate WHY....Lemme explain how....
As stated in my earlier musings, WHY is fundamental spark for an action. Its akin to the first gear of an automobile which helps in the movement of the vehicle the first few feet. There after it could be really foolish to remain in first gear and could be quite expensive too....
HOW is the beautiful interrogation that sets us in doing things perfectly AND ensuring our effectiveness. Every little detail taken into account & each possible failure mode cemented up completely, it is a sure way for a comfortably ride in the journey of life. In fact, we re-use WHY interrogation only when a failure happens in the journey helping us to strengthen our execution part further more. That's why I feel HOW is more powerful which can pre-empt the power of WHY.
There were few extra ordinary experiences that I had at my office where I have seen the inspiration levels of my team and the way they have been giving themselves to the chosen initiatives. When ever I follow up on the stage at which they are in, I keep telling within myself that the only support as a senior person that I am supposed to give them is to learn the power of HOW. I keep pitching up few things that they might want to do to ensure a process driven approach and deliver their results in highest quality.
While it takes some extra time and energy to meet up the expectations, they sincerely oblige only because they are beginning to taste the sweet Ecstasy of the HOW. Further, I am too convinced that taking up these interventions from me will help them to explore themselves on the HOW power in their future initiatives - either done by themselves or by their future reportees....
Well, these days I don't seem to generate much of poems....After PARAMA PADHAM its total drought.....and not sure when the next poem will spring out from me. Until then, keep reading my musings which has a tinge of abstraction....like this one.
Krishnaarpanam as always
Suren
The power of WHY ?
There are six basic words in English that are interrogative....WHAT, WHO, WHY, HOW, WHEN & WHERE. No doubt What and Who are the first questions to be asked to seek any clarity....but they are particularly relevant in physical realm. When we step into abstract subjects and things that are bit deeper and complex, then WHY becomes an important interrogation lest our search may become directionless. It is a golden question that seeks to clarify the purpose of any thing that we think and we do....and it establishes a deep connection with reality and our true craving on the subject. Relatively speaking, HOW is a lighter interrogation as it is more about details or the procedure to seek the answer to WHY. Let us leave out WHEN and WHERE which are essentially descriptive interrogations that sets the basic physical premises for our search or longing.
Let us get back to WHY now !! Yes, all great persons in various walk of life had vision about themselves and the things that they want to create....and history proves us that they eventually created thier vision...bringing their abstract thoughts to practical reality. Most of the visionaries, particularly in the modern world corporate context, meticulously frame a mission statement putting their abstract vision into language. Mission statement is a road map for one's vision and essentially answers the WHY question for any human initative. It is critically important to determine the WHY clearly because while it gives the testimony that any initiative is close to one's heart and pursued out of passion & not out of any external pressure, it also clearly lays down the premises of the initiative....giving us a clear DOs and DONTs in order to be more effective and conserve our energies.
Some time back I had posted my thoughts in my earlier blog about the power of "why" (reproduced below for a quick reading now).
When I wrote it I was so clear about what ever I was writing and when I read it after close to 1 1/2 years, it is still appealing though .... though these days I am more oriented towards the power of HOW !!. It seems to me that HOW is rather a more powerful interrogative tool which scores over WHY....If done religiously, it can totally annihilate WHY....Lemme explain how....
As stated in my earlier musings, WHY is fundamental spark for an action. Its akin to the first gear of an automobile which helps in the movement of the vehicle the first few feet. There after it could be really foolish to remain in first gear and could be quite expensive too....
HOW is the beautiful interrogation that sets us in doing things perfectly AND ensuring our effectiveness. Every little detail taken into account & each possible failure mode cemented up completely, it is a sure way for a comfortably ride in the journey of life. In fact, we re-use WHY interrogation only when a failure happens in the journey helping us to strengthen our execution part further more. That's why I feel HOW is more powerful which can pre-empt the power of WHY.
There were few extra ordinary experiences that I had at my office where I have seen the inspiration levels of my team and the way they have been giving themselves to the chosen initiatives. When ever I follow up on the stage at which they are in, I keep telling within myself that the only support as a senior person that I am supposed to give them is to learn the power of HOW. I keep pitching up few things that they might want to do to ensure a process driven approach and deliver their results in highest quality.
While it takes some extra time and energy to meet up the expectations, they sincerely oblige only because they are beginning to taste the sweet Ecstasy of the HOW. Further, I am too convinced that taking up these interventions from me will help them to explore themselves on the HOW power in their future initiatives - either done by themselves or by their future reportees....
Well, these days I don't seem to generate much of poems....After PARAMA PADHAM its total drought.....and not sure when the next poem will spring out from me. Until then, keep reading my musings which has a tinge of abstraction....like this one.
Krishnaarpanam as always
Suren
The power of WHY ?
There are six basic words in English that are interrogative....WHAT, WHO, WHY, HOW, WHEN & WHERE. No doubt What and Who are the first questions to be asked to seek any clarity....but they are particularly relevant in physical realm. When we step into abstract subjects and things that are bit deeper and complex, then WHY becomes an important interrogation lest our search may become directionless. It is a golden question that seeks to clarify the purpose of any thing that we think and we do....and it establishes a deep connection with reality and our true craving on the subject. Relatively speaking, HOW is a lighter interrogation as it is more about details or the procedure to seek the answer to WHY. Let us leave out WHEN and WHERE which are essentially descriptive interrogations that sets the basic physical premises for our search or longing.
Let us get back to WHY now !! Yes, all great persons in various walk of life had vision about themselves and the things that they want to create....and history proves us that they eventually created thier vision...bringing their abstract thoughts to practical reality. Most of the visionaries, particularly in the modern world corporate context, meticulously frame a mission statement putting their abstract vision into language. Mission statement is a road map for one's vision and essentially answers the WHY question for any human initative. It is critically important to determine the WHY clearly because while it gives the testimony that any initiative is close to one's heart and pursued out of passion & not out of any external pressure, it also clearly lays down the premises of the initiative....giving us a clear DOs and DONTs in order to be more effective and conserve our energies.
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